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Finding people to play with
edulis wrote: Didn't there used to be a map on this site that showed where we all lived?
Click on "Forums" on the link above, then "member map." Some people haven't updated for a while but a lot of them will still be the same---PM someone near you. I've been thinking about forcing Jeb to play games with me on some weekend if I make the trip to LA.
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I've been here about a year and have a decent amount of gaming friends now and generally don't go to meetups. Now I mostly just play games with people I know by communicating through the local discord server or through facebook. I don't have a lot of tolerance for filler games or dry euros or even co-ops so the quicker I could leave the meetup scene the better. And I agree, there are many people that do meetups in order to play as many games as quickly as possible and leave right away. Which is a really strange thing to do.
Meetups are tough. Many people there really are very awkward and strange at times honestly. And most of the games played at meetups are inherently euros since they don't require any kind of negotiation or social aspect to play effectively. Or they are very light games like secret hitler or some trash that wastes time and is over in 10 minutes yet takes like 30 minutes. Most of the friends here I've met through the meetup scene though so there are some good people out there.
I look for:
A parent playing Memoir 44 with their kid. Parent is probably a war gamer and kids between the ages of 10 and 14 are like the best Ameritrash game buddies. If the game has blowing shit up, or tanks or monsters or super heroes in it, they are all in.
Parents playing Pokémon with their kid. Parent is probably a MtG player. Same as above for the kid.
Downside of the above, they may think you are a pedophile, so make sure you direct you attention to the parent and not the kid.
Youngish couples dressed like they purchased a fair amount of the wardrobe at a renaissance fair. They are usually RPG refugees. Will be psyched to play fantasy themed and adventury type games. Downside, you may have to play Munchkin with them to get to know them.
Any noisy table. These are people who are social gamers. Even if the game sucks, they will be fun to play with.
Tables with two or more women, especially if they are chit chatting. They will usually make an attempt to include everyone in the conversation, which means there isn’t going to be a lot of heads down play and it will make it easier for you to get to know everyone at the table without a lot of effort on your part.
As Sag says, your goal is to find players. Pay more attention to the players than to the game.
I went through a couple of game groups, attended local cons, and FLGS game nights until I finally had an array of tribe members to call on for games. This was over a 13 year period. Eventually I started my own TrashFest as an excuse to get seldom played games (like Psycho Raiders, SEA EVIL, The Gothic Game) off the shelf. I have plans to meet up with an Instagram friend who seems to have similar tastes in the near future. Your miles most definitely will vary. Best of luck!
OH! If you do attend a con, look to host a game if they have an online sign up process. Nothing quicker to possibly finding tribe than by having even one person sign up to play.
ubarose wrote: Any noisy table. These are people who are social gamers. Even if the game sucks, they will be fun to play with.
I'm glad some people like seeing the noisy table, because there's a decent chance that table has me.
This is a tough question, and it almost always takes time. The best advice I've seen here is to be willing to play stuff you aren't wild about. You also need to be okay with bouncing around between tables now and then, because sometimes the people there just want different things.
Any sort of big public gathering that you can get to regularly and easily has been the secret sauce for me. When those kind of events aren't nearby I have always struggled to play stuff. But in both KC and DFW it was regular game events that opened the door to making a lot of friends, and then those friends ended up being really close. I confess, I'm a fairly outgoing person, so that does make it easier. But I think a lot of people here would agree.