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What POSITIVE CHANGES are you making in your life?
ChristopherMD wrote: 4 months later, with no one here making positive changes,
I got a set of harmonicas and have been noodling around on those. They are fun.
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I met the sixth woman a month ago. A week of frequent messaging led to an amazing first date. There are popular guidelines about what you shouldn't talk about on a first date (religion, politics, exes, past traumas, etc.) and we violated all of them. An innocent bystander would have guessed that we were old friends who hadn't see each other for a few years. Then we decided to date exclusively and hid our dating profiles on the site. For our second date, she invited me over to her place and cooked a nice dinner for us. There was also a vast amount of texting going on after we left the site. One night, we both had insomnia and sent each other photos of poems we had written in the past. For 24 magical days, I was extremely happy.
In the end, it didn't work out. She was looking for many of the qualities that I have and had been disappointed with the other guys she had recently dated, so she really tried to make it work with me. But she never felt any chemistry with me, just friendly compatibility, and by our final date, she didn't think it would be possible for her to ever feel chemistry with me. The biggest issue was that it had only been a year since her divorce, and so probably too soon for her to feel chemistry with anybody yet. The marriage was very dysfunctional, featuring numerous occasions when her ex cheated, but they were together for over 20 years. Anyway, she let me down very gently and she hopes that we can actually stay friends. I told her that I wanted that as well, but should probably stay away long enough to get over my feelings for her. I could use a new actual friend, but not if I feel like some pathetic optimist in the friend zone.
Positive changes? I have already plunged back into the dating pool and have a date lined up for this weekend. And in a couple of months, I plan to contact the woman from December to renew the friendship. I really miss the amazing conversations, and I feel like my social skills actually improved last month. Also, she has single friends that I might meet. And maybe she will eventually get interested in me, but I don't expect or even hope for that. Besides, I really need to broaden my circle of friends, as zero of my local gaming friends showed up for a boardgame event at my house yesterday. When I first moved to Minnesota, I found it surprisingly difficult to make new friends, except for people who shared my gaming interests. But if I am really honest with myself, most of those gaming friends are people that I only see when we play games. Making some non-gamer friends is the positive change that I seek to make in my life. Uh, no offense to any of you gamers.
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I recently visited a psychologist four times in order to get diagnosed for ADHD and Autism. I had been diagnosed with ADHD in the past, but after seven years they shred their records. This guy was pretty thorough and at the end of the testing he said that I didn't have ADHD or Autism at the level of a disorder, and that it was a really tricky diagnosis and he had to talk to a colleague about it. So he eventually said that I had adhd tendencies and some strong autistic cognitive areas. I was sort of confused by the whole thing. One interesting factor was that when I took the computerized impulse test, I scored in the 60th percentile, whereas I remember failing that test when I was diagnosed over 15 years ago. This time around I was totally in the zone, to the point where I felt like I could feel the algorithm the machine was using and sort of anticipate what was going to happen, to a small degree.
He also thinks I may have inflated some of my responses, based on taking too many online tests in the past. At one. point he told me, "I'm kind of odd, I see ADHD as a superpower" at which point his credibility dropped about 300 percent.
I suspect I have something neurodivergent going on, based on decades of firsthand experience, but that over time I have learned to compensate for it to a degree, and that the effort of that performative compensation is contributing in part to the moderate generalized anxiety, depression and anhedonia that showed up in the tests.
I can probably still wave the results around and get a free national park pass, however.
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As someone who enjoys buying musical instruments and then not playing them, I would like to hear more about this!dysjunct wrote:
ChristopherMD wrote: 4 months later, with no one here making positive changes,
I got a set of harmonicas and have been noodling around on those. They are fun.
My psychologist wrote that although I have many symptoms of ADHD and ASD, they do not rise to the level of disability and he cannot guarantee they are caused by ADHD and ASD. So, all of the hassles of what sure looks like neurodivergence, but I occupy limbo. And maybe it's just anxiety and insomnia.
I'm still going to fill my sustained release amphetamine prescription because I write about 3x as much and it boosts my mood.
I'm sure there will be no negative consequences to this.
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As someone who enjoys buying musical instruments and then not playing them, I would like to hear more about this!dysjunct wrote:
ChristopherMD wrote: 4 months later, with no one here making positive changes,
I got a set of harmonicas and have been noodling around on those. They are fun.
Harmonica has been a bit of a challenge for me to take beyond the goofing off level. The set I got has one for each major key (ABCDEFG). The idea is that for a particular song, you get out the appropriately-keyed harmonica, and then the notes on the harmonica will sound good with the song. A talented player can make them work in other keys, and some genres use off-keyed harmonicas, e.g. blues in G will use a C-harp.
I am held back by my extremely hazy knowledge of music theory and also general laziness. I should probably get a self-teaching book or something.
I also got a rubboard (like a washboard but without the wooden frame; easy to play, but loud and not very useful without others).
My go-to remains the baritone ukulele, which is extremely easy and fun to play. I have large hands, and the regular ukulele is difficult for me to play certain chords on due to the close spacing on the frets. Bari-uke is larger, and has a sweeter and lower tone, but is just as easy to play. If I hear a song that sounds fun, it is trivial to search “$song_name chords” and learn it. Currently I am tormenting my family with my rendition of “Stacy’s Mom.”
Duolingo came out with a music theory course that is so far very easy. It is mostly on reading music, which I need to learn. My next major project is learning the notes on a bass fretboard.
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dysjunct wrote:
My go-to remains the baritone ukulele, which is extremely easy and fun to play. I have large hands, and the regular ukulele is difficult for me to play certain chords on due to the close spacing on the frets. Bari-uke is larger, and has a sweeter and lower tone, but is just as easy to play. If I hear a song that sounds fun, it is trivial to search “$song_name chords” and learn it. Currently I am tormenting my family with my rendition of “Stacy’s Mom.”
Duolingo came out with a music theory course that is so far very easy. It is mostly on reading music, which I need to learn. My next major project is learning the notes on a bass fretboard.
I've got a Guitalele, which is closely related to the bari-uke, and they are the best.
I was crushed when Adam Schlesinger died in the early days of Covid. Lately I can't get "All Kinds of Time" out of my head, and it feels especially poignant in light of his passing. I also heard from a doctor that the smattering of cancer cells they found in my prostate could just sit there and do nothing until I'm in my eighties. My neighbor had prostate cancer and I can vividly remember my son and I adjusting him in his bed, where he had moved from the chair in the front room because he wanted to sleep with his wife, but in hindsight I realized years later (like five minutes ago) that he knew the pneumonia would take him. Later the hospice nurse told his wife, "you go take a shower and I'll give him a shot of morphine and he'll be gone when you get out"
I am experiencing Duolingo shame right now because I have been telling my Hispanic friends at the thrift store that I'm going to practice and learn something besides "Comesta"
The clock's running down
The team's losing ground
To the opposing defense
The young quarterback
Waits for the snap
When suddenly it all starts to make sense
He's got all kinds of time
He's got all kinds of time
All kinds of time
He's got all kinds of time
All kinds of time
He takes a step back
He's under attack
But he knows that no one can touch him now
He seems so at ease
A strange inner peace
Is all that he's feeling somehow
He thinks of his mother
He thinks of his bride to be
He thinks of his father
His two younger brothers
Gathered around the widescreen TV
He looks to the left
He looks to the right
And there in a golden ray of light
Is his open man
Just like he planned
The whole world is his tonight
He's got all kinds of time
He's got all kinds of time
All kinds of time
He's got all kinds of time
All kinds of time
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dysjunct wrote: I lived in Santa Cruz (and Aptos) for a while. A nice place, although I can’t imagine what housing is like there now. Stupid NIMBYs were ruining everything even two decades ago.
I lived in Aptos for 3 years growing up. Like maybe 1986-89ish. Maybe a hair earlier. My mom opened a restaurant at Deer Park.
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Apparently it is good for all kinds of things. In countries with naturally high levels in the water, suicide rates are measurably lower.
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My next major project is learning the notes on a bass fretboard.
I have learned most of the notes on the bass fretboard. Up through the first ten or so frets. I can play the major and minor scales for each key and can (slowly) identify the notes in the major triads, sevenths, and augmented/diminished chords. (You do not typically play chords on bass, but if you know what notes are in the chords then you can sound good accompanying other instruments.)
I was blitzing through the Duolingo music app, but that is focused on learning the treble clef for keyboard. It was not helpful for bass, so I stopped.
But I have a secret weapon:
My father-in-law (retired music teacher) went through all the phases of liking increasingly unlistenable art music (free jazz, modern compositions for orchestra) but eventually realized he just likes tunes, specifically the old show tunes from Tin Pan Alley, which have generally become "jazz standards." They are often very catchy and singable, but also are musically interesting for someone with his background; e.g. they don't follow the typical chord progression of pop/rock songs, but will go through weird flats/sharps (or whatever) and still sound great.
I have had a bass ukulele for a while (maybe I've mentioned this) and he talked me into finding an amp so I could play bass while he sings and plays piano. I might eventually sing too, once I feel more comfortable on the bass, but for right now I'm challenged enough just to keep up.
If anyone is struggling to learn the nuts and bolts of music, beyond just the "plunking chords around a campfire" level, I strongly recommend marrying into a family with a music teacher who wants to play music with you and will patiently go over what everything means, why it is that way instead of some other way, and what the best way is to learn and practice.
Right now we are working on:
- Blue Moon
- Give Me a Kiss to Build a Dream On
- Satin Doll
- All of Me
- Mercy, Mercy, Mercy
It's been a very fun experience. We might add a trumpet player in a bit.
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