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27 Nov 2020 15:10 #316640 by ubarose
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Gary Sax wrote: I decided to zig instead of zag and asked most of my family for gifts related to trying to take up fly fishing by myself. Intimidating. My greatest personal fear is fucking up and looking like an idiot at stuff, in general, so this will be a good experience from a personal growth perspective. I just have to go out there and fuck up which requires me really being assertive.


Do things you are terrible at. If you don’t, you miss out on so much fun in life.

Also, remember that people love giving advice and helping newbies. Most hobbies aren’t full of gatekeepers, the way nerd hobbies are. If someone who knows what they are doing sees you fuck up, they won’t think that you are an idiot, they will see it as an opportunity to help and teach and maybe make a new friend.
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27 Nov 2020 15:36 #316641 by dysjunct
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Shellhead wrote: So I finally broke down and bought some very inexpensive home exercise gear: a set of resistance bands and handles. Less than $40, and usable for dozens of different exercises.


Craigslist is often a great place to get cheap barely-used exercise equipment, if you're looking for anything else.
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27 Nov 2020 15:38 #316642 by Shellhead
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ubarose wrote:

Gary Sax wrote: I decided to zig instead of zag and asked most of my family for gifts related to trying to take up fly fishing by myself. Intimidating. My greatest personal fear is fucking up and looking like an idiot at stuff, in general, so this will be a good experience from a personal growth perspective. I just have to go out there and fuck up which requires me really being assertive.


Do things you are terrible at. If you don’t, you miss out on so much fun in life.

Also, remember that people love giving advice and helping newbies. Most hobbies aren’t full of gatekeepers, the way nerd hobbies are. If someone who knows what they are doing sees you fuck up, they won’t think that you are an idiot, they will see it as an opportunity to help and teach and maybe make a new friend.


Kurt Vonnegut:

When I was 15, I spent a month working on an archeological dig. I was talking to one of the archeologists one day during our lunch break and he asked those kinds of “getting to know you” questions you ask young people: Do you play sports? What’s your favorite subject? And I told him, no I don’t play any sports. I do theater, I’m in choir, I play the violin and piano, I used to take art classes.

And he went WOW. That’s amazing! And I said, “Oh no, but I’m not any good at ANY of them.”

And he said something then that I will never forget and which absolutely blew my mind because no one had ever said anything like it to me before: “I don’t think being good at things is the point of doing them. I think you’ve got all these wonderful experiences with different skills, and that all teaches you things and makes you an interesting person, no matter how well you do them.”

And that honestly changed my life. Because I went from a failure, someone who hadn’t been talented enough at anything to excel, to someone who did things because I enjoyed them. I had been raised in such an achievement-oriented environment, so inundated with the myth of Talent, that I thought it was only worth doing things if you could “Win” at them.
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27 Nov 2020 16:26 #316644 by JoelCFC25
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Gary Sax wrote: I decided to zig instead of zag and asked most of my family for gifts related to trying to take up fly fishing by myself. Intimidating.

That's awesome! Fly fishing is a very niche thing up here because of the abundance of open water, but there are streams and rivers (especially in the Driftless region of SE Minnesota) where it makes sense. A couple weeks ago a friend came up to Monticello with me to fish the Mississippi with waders where there's a nice shallow portion at a bend in the river with good slack water. He caught a few smallies on his fly rod, which looked insanely fun because the thing just doubles over like a floppy noodle even on relatively small fish. Then he caught a couple walleyes with it too. Last week he caught a baby muskie on Lake Minnetonka with it fishing from shore, what a hoot that must have been.
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27 Nov 2020 17:45 - 27 Nov 2020 17:47 #316645 by Gary Sax
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God, that nerd hobby point is so good ubarose.

Yeah, definitely, I'd probably try some other style if I lived elsewhere... but we have an abundance of small streams near me (e.g. Oak Creek in Sedona), so that is what I'm most likely to do. I'm even buying a smaller rod than most people recommend as "default" because the streams I'm going to try to fish on are pretty tiny spring fed canyon rivers. I plan on catching no fish but spending some time out in some beautiful riparian canyons.
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27 Nov 2020 18:06 #316647 by Not Sure
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Gary Sax wrote: I decided to zig instead of zag and asked most of my family for gifts related to trying to take up fly fishing by myself. Intimidating. My greatest personal fear is fucking up and looking like an idiot at stuff, in general, so this will be a good experience from a personal growth perspective. I just have to go out there and fuck up which requires me really being assertive.


One of the nice things about fly fishing is that you're generally standing around in a river by yourself, so if you fuck up there's not much of an audience.

Good on you for picking up something new.
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28 Nov 2020 15:23 #316661 by mc
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Shellhead wrote:


Kurt Vonnegut:

“I don’t think being good at things is the point of doing them. I think you’ve got all these wonderful experiences with different skills, and that all teaches you things and makes you an interesting person, no matter how well you do them.”

And that honestly changed my life. Because I went from a failure, someone who hadn’t been talented enough at anything to excel, to someone who did things because I enjoyed them. I had been raised in such an achievement-oriented environment, so inundated with the myth of Talent, that I thought it was only worth doing things if you could “Win” at them.


Thanks shellhead. I say similar things to kids where I teach all all the time - sometimes feels like beating your head against a wall, they are so risk averse and achievement oriented. I like to think it gets through sometimes!
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30 Nov 2020 22:29 #316722 by Shellhead
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mc wrote:

Shellhead wrote:


Kurt Vonnegut:

“I don’t think being good at things is the point of doing them. I think you’ve got all these wonderful experiences with different skills, and that all teaches you things and makes you an interesting person, no matter how well you do them.”

And that honestly changed my life. Because I went from a failure, someone who hadn’t been talented enough at anything to excel, to someone who did things because I enjoyed them. I had been raised in such an achievement-oriented environment, so inundated with the myth of Talent, that I thought it was only worth doing things if you could “Win” at them.


Thanks shellhead. I say similar things to kids where I teach all all the time - sometimes feels like beating your head against a wall, they are so risk averse and achievement oriented. I like to think it gets through sometimes!


That Vonnegut quote made an impact on me, too, and I wish that I had come across it when I was still a teenager. Fortunately, my parents pushed me to try a lot of things that I wouldn't have sought out on my own, but my risk aversion made it stressful at times. Since college, I have become much more open to new experiences, and much less worried about failure.

For example, when I first moved back to Minnesota, I was carpooling to work with my cousin since we both worked downtown. One night after work, she informed me that we were going to the Metrodome (the previous Minnesota Vikings stadium) instead of heading right home, because they were letting people rollerblade indoors on the smooth concrete concourse surrounding the stadium seating. I had never rollerbladed, ever, and I hadn't gone ice skating since I was 6 years old. So I knew that I was going to be falling down. But it seemed possible that it could also be fun and maybe I would make some new friends. I fell down a lot, and my buttocks hurt for a couple of days afterwards. But I did learn how to rollerblade and it was fun at times, even if I never did master the stopping part.
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01 Dec 2020 11:20 #316743 by Gregarius
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I've never seen that quote before, but when I was a teenager I certainly had that attitude when it came to part-time jobs. I wish I had it with other hobbies & interests, but alas. When I started working, I wanted to "never have the same job twice." I've been a grocery bagger (do these even exist anymore?), sales clerk, stockboy, cashier, gas station attendant, janitor, plastic extruder, line cook, file clerk, bartender, and waiter. I kinda stopped switching after waiter since it turned out to be pretty universal and relatively lucrative.

I really liked learning the ins & outs of different businesses and types of work, but for a long time I worried that it made me a "Jack of all trades, master of none." I think in the long run it helped me become more empathetic to wage workers, plus there are lessons & skills I learned from each of those jobs that applied to other areas of life.
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01 Dec 2020 11:49 #316746 by DarthJoJo
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My boys got into my box of yo-yos, kendamas, juggling balls and devil sticks. They’re of an age where I’m not immediately afraid of them breaking something or hurting someone, so I put them on a lower shelf to keep them interested.

Still a lot of fun. I’m not terribly good at any of them and not seeking mastery either, but it’s nice just to keep my hands active.
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08 Dec 2020 10:50 - 08 Dec 2020 10:52 #316917 by Gary Sax
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We did a three day backpack to the grand canyon. I savaged my knee on the first day, 5000 feet of descent with a ~30 pound packpack, because of a preexisting injury (IT band). That made that day and the next day of hiking very painful, but it was a pretty incredible trip. We saw a California Condor in the last hour of our trip out on Bright Angel trail, it was like an good omen scene from a bad movie, very auspicious.
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08 Dec 2020 11:10 #316919 by Msample
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If you aren’t using trekking poles, go get some. Make a huge difference IMO.
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08 Dec 2020 11:45 - 08 Dec 2020 11:46 #316922 by Gary Sax
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Yeah, I definitely was. I usually don't.
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04 Jan 2021 23:37 - 04 Jan 2021 23:38 #317720 by Gary Sax
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I got fly fishing gear, including my rod and the essentials, for christmas from my family and I'm ordering some other fancy bibs and bobs (expensive hobby, explains the old man demographic). I'm pretty excited about fucking everything up, losing all my flies, and not catching anything! My spouse and I scouted out a river about 40 minutes drive and an hour or two hike away (pictured).

Now if only my knee would heal, I'm so fucking over this 9 months of pain whenever I hike.
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05 Jan 2021 02:14 - 05 Jan 2021 02:14 #317722 by Nodens
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With so much free time on my hands at home I finally got a new mixer and some of my records back out.
I honestly would be surprised if anyone here dug that kind of music (mostly dub and house), but it's supposed to uplift spirits and we can never have enough of that, amiright?

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